By Abdullah Al Araby
He is asking for your hand in marriage, and you have fallen in
love with his bronze Middle Eastern complexion. He is
intelligent, rich, well-educated and well-mannered. So, what
more can a woman ask for?.. THIS MOST ELIGIBLE
“There will be no problems” he will say, “you can keep your
religion, 1 will keep mine”, And while it is true that Islam allows a
Muslim man to marry a Christian, is it true that there will be no
problems in such a marriage?
To answer this question, a woman has to examine what it is like
to be a Muslim’s wife
All quotes used in this article are from the Muslims’ sacred books
of the Quran (believed by Muslims to be Allah’s words)
translated by Abdullah Yusuf Ali, and the’ Hadith (Mohammed’s
words and deeds) as recorded by Al Bukhary.

-Islam teaches that men are superior to women “… And women
shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according
to what is equitable; but men have a degree (superiority) over
them” Surah 2:228
-Islam teaches that women have half the rights of men
a. In court witness Surah 2:282
b. In inheritance Surah 4: 11
-Islam considers the wife a possession. “Fair in the eyes of men
is the love of things they covet: women and sons, heaped-up
hoards of gold and silver; horses…” Surah 3: 14
-Islam teaches that women are unclean. “If a Muslim man
touches’ a woman (even his wife) before praying, he is consider
unclean for prayer”. Surah 4:43
-Islam instructs women to veil themselves always, when they are
outside their homes “and say to the believing women…that they
should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their
beauty” Surah 24:31
-Mohammed teaches that women are lacking in mind and
religion “have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence
and religion than women” Al Bukhary vol. 2:541
-Mohammed teaches that women are a bad omen. “Bad omen is
in the women, the house and the horse”
Al Bukhary vol. 7:30
-Mohammed teaches that women are harmful to men “After me I
have not left any affliction more harmful to men than women”
Al Bukhary vol. 7:33
-Islam allows polygamy: A man may marry up to four wives at
one time. “Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or
four…” Surah 4:3
-A man can divorce his wife by oral announcement; the wife has
no such right. “divorce is permissible twice” Surah 2:229
-When a husband has pronounced divorce three times on his
wife, she then may not lawfully remarry her husband until she
has married and been divorced by another man (including
having sexual intercourse with him}. “…So if a husband divorces
his wife he cannot after that, remarry her until after she has
married another husband, and he has divorced her” Surah
-Islam teaches that a wife is subject to punishment by her
husband, beating a wife or abstaining from sexual relations with
her is allowed, “As to those women on whose part ye fear
disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them, refuse to share their
beds, beat them…” Surah 4:34
-Islam considers the wife a sex object. “your wives are as a tilth (a
field to be ploughed) unto you, so approach your tilth, when or
how ye will” Surah 2:223
-Unnatural sex is allowed “Narrated Jabir: Jews used to say; if
one has sexual intercourse with his wife from the back, then she
will deliver a squint-eyed child. So this verse was revealed:
Your wives are a tilth unto you, so approach your tilth when or
how ye will. (whether in a natural or unnatural way). Al
Bukhary vol. 6:51
Your children have to be raised according to their Muslim
father’s religion: Islam. If he divorces you, he gets custody of the
children, and you wouldn’t be able to see your children again.
There is no such thing as visitation rights in Islam. The Sharia
(Islamic Law) states that in mixed marriages “the children will
follow the better of the two religions of their parents”, which in
your case is Islam. The Quran states that Islam is the only true
religion. “The religion before God is Islam” Surah 3:19
Non Muslims can not act as protectors to Muslims “O ye who
believe; take not for friends (protectors) unbelievers rather than
believers” Surah 4: 144
Should you survive your Muslim husband, and his wealth is in an
Islamic country, the Islamic law will apply. The wife who has not
converted to Islam gets nothing. The wife who has converted to
Islam gets very little. According to the Quran a wife does not
inherit all her husband’s wealth. If the husband dies and he
leaves no children, she gets a fourth of his wealth. His parents,
brothers, uncles, etc will get the rest. If the deceased husband
leaves children, then the wife gets an eighth, the children get the
rest; the male child gets double the portion of the female. “In
what ye leave, their (wives) share is a fourth if you leave no
children; but if you leave a child, they (wives) get an eighth;
after payment of legacies and debts. ” Surah .1.: 12
Before you commit yourself to marry a Muslim, it is a good idea
to examine the motives behind it. While your motive may be
love, his motive could be just to obtain a
“Green Card”. Even if this is not his motive, marrying a Muslim
is asking for trouble.
I know, they say, “love is blind”. I hope however that this
message will serve as an eye- opener for you. You may say that
your husband-to-be is a non-practicing Muslim. But let’s not
forget that Islam is more than a religion; it includes a complete
legal code for Muslims and non- Muslims to follow in an Islamic
State. In case of a dispute between you and him, all he needs to
do to get the upper hand over you is to travel to an Islamic
If you are in doubt about this, may I suggest that you see the
movie “Not without my daughter” which is based on a true-life
story of an American woman who married a Muslim man.
This may be a life-saving experience. The lives you will save are
your own, and those of your future children.
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what
hath righteousness “with unrighteousness? And what
communion hath light with darkness?”
2 Corinthians 6:14



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