Women’s rights are not full rights under Islamic Law. This is from a chat room I am monitoring. Check the question, and the answer and this is part of the problem of Islam and contemporary life in the West.
comments by Allyson Rowen Taylor
I converted to Islam and married my husband 2 years ago. Since then, he did not teach me to pray and has no interest in doing so. He is Hafiz and , with full Islamic education.
He says if I want to learn, then he will send me to a Madrasa. He doesn’t have time to teach me anything. But he really is not that busy, he just doesn’t want to do it.
Also, he says he won’t prayer with me at home, that men MUST go to Mosque to pray. Is it so bad to pray with your family? I want a good Islamic home and family, but he is making it difficult.
Part of the attraction of Islam for me was having a close religious relationship with my husband, but he thinks it is my personal business if I learn or pray and he doesn’t have any interest in doing those things with me.
Can you kindly send a reply as soon as possible so I can show him?
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful
Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatuh
There are two issues to your query
- Seeking Islamic knowledge
- Your husband’s attitude
At the outset, we wish to commend you on your spirit of acquiring Deeni knowledge. May Allah increase your thirst for Deen and make you successful in your quest for true knowledge.
You state that you have reverted to Islam approximately two years ago. You also state that your husband is an Alim and a Hafiz of the Quraan. Indeed you are extremely fortunate to be married to an Alim and Hafiz. Since you are newly married it is possible that your husband is somewhat reserved and does not want to be engaged in teaching you. The issue of no time could possibly be an excuse to recuse himself from your request. Perhaps he feels that your learning under him will not be as fruitful and effective as taking lessons by learned woman folk of the community. You should therefore not make his refusal to teach you and issue that could jeopardize your marital relationship with him.
Your husband is correct in performing Salaah at the Musjid. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has mentioned severe warnings for men performing Salaah at home without a valid excuse. If you are experiencing some difficulties with regards to the Salaah, then you may just enquire from him what to do in those specific conditions.
In conclusion we reiterate that if your husband is uncomfortable in teaching you and has allowed you to take lessons at a female , then you should respect his feelings. Do not harbour ill feelings due his refusal. Do not allow the devil to divide you and your husband on this issue as the repercussions and consequences of breaking a marriage are far greater.
And Allah knows best
Muhammed Zakariyya Desai,
Checked and Approved by:
Darul Iftaa, Madrassah In’aamiyyah